Relationship Advice

Listening podcast, of Relationship Advice with guest speaker Dr Alexandra Solomon.

A great place to start is to examine our own experiences and original childhood and examine what affects us, what we bring to the table for the relationship, and what we want to carry forward. Tip to start is to see during our childhood how do our original family how I handle conflict and how I handle closeness. Relationship is about feel good and getting along, but also about conflict and those closeness.

Sometimes our wound and our partner's wound overlap. We are often attracted to the partner who challenges us in that very heart of our wound - the relationship is like the dance, navigating the dance.

The best thing is to stay curious and learnt about our partner, our partner see the view, and stay curious to see and proactively understand how partner react to the situation. Sometimes when tough times, we just want things to change so the pain goes away. To uncover it, having a partner willing to ask and be curious help, but couples' therapy is very useful. Dose of couple therapy is useful to better understand our pattern and how we deal with each other - recommended when we decide to live together, when we got married, when we have first baby, when the kid starts elementary school, when we raise teenagers, etc. Being married is a dynamic thing, expectations change circumstances change.

When do we walk away? When we have partner who is not willing to work on the relationship and work through the issues. Love humbles people.

Keep the gratitude journal.
Advice to newlyweds: gratitude to our partner, love to have you in my life, everyday.