I reflected on the conversation, and about how different people gave advice. Some leaders are more caring and genuinely interested in making you successful. Other leaders gave you point of view, often drawn from their experiences, so you can draw your own conclusion. The first method gave you faster action and teaches you new perspective. The latter method depends on your own analysis to think and teach you how to think.
I also sensed from the conversation that he mentioned it took a year to learn new organization, and that you have to be clearer on what you are going to get from the new role in a new organization. And at the same time, consider that the new role will draw from your existing experiences and core strength.
I sense that he talked a lot about his own experiences, that serves both ways, for others to get to know him accomplishment more and how he thinks, and also provides credibility and examples to his advice.
Overall, I would say he is taking a hands-off approach. Doesn't offer help further or to keep in touch. But that is exactly what I would expect. He did say that if there's any suitable opportunities he would flick it over but also that opportunities that he came across is not what I would be looking for.
Now the thinking trap that I must be wary about today is the all for nothing thinking. It is good that we establish a connection after 2 years. That's positive, that's it and the liberty of thinking about it that way gives me a relief and something to focus on right now, which is to chart my new path.
