Relationship Advice

• Find a little perspective: Focus on why you fell in love with your partner and what you want your life to become like together. Even better, tell your partner this without any expectations of them doing the same.
• Start to repair the damage: Apologize for your part in any misunderstanding. Don't defend why you did or didn't do this or that. Offer a simple, heartfelt apology without expecting one from them. This seriously can work wonders.
• Be brave enough to go first: Be willing to apologize to your partner first instead of waiting for them to make the first move.
• Stop waging war: Stop doing anything that's causing harm to your partner or injures your feeling of connection. This might simply mean showing a little more patience, compassion and kindness.

The happiness and success of any relationship is reflected in the little things you do (and fail to do) for each other. Don't let your relationship fall apart like so many couples do. Today, make a fresh start. Choose to do something that moves you out of the past and imagines a brighter future together.

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You are not such a big deal

This is the concept I learnt that changed my life. Whenever I encounter difficulties, or shy away from attempting something because I am too "introverted", or "my life is difficult because no one understands me", or "I cannot be successful in finding relationship because I am intimidating, successful, speak well, travel too much, etc", this is the dogma that I kept repeating in my head.

It helps.

It helps to break away from the box sometimes I found myself in. Or feeling sorry for myself. Or from being afraid to dance to the tune of life. The Oprah book What I know for sure that I have been reading has been good and affirmative as well. You don't need men to be happy or to validate yourself. First love yourself. And the greatest love you can give yourself is experience life in the fullest. Not afraid of failure. Just try. Experience. Live. And push the envelope while you fail or succeed. But the key is to live the live rather than focusing on the outcome.

I also tried to fix my relationship problem. By reading about new skills. About validating ourselves. That's the key message of the book I hear You, by Michael Sorensen. I am trying to practice that.

Finally I am learning new habit. Forming new ones, thru 5 Seconds rule.

Links to these wonderful books:

• The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life by Mark Manson
• What I Know For Sure by Oprah Winfrey
• I Hear You: The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships by Michael S. Sorensen
• The 5 Second Rule: Transform Your Life, Work, and Confidence with Everyday Courage by Mel Robbins
• The Coaching Habit: Say Less, Ask More & Change the Way You Lead Forever by Michael Bungay Stanier